The thought of a secret admirer can get anyone excited: it’s mysterious, anonymous and could just be that cute boy you’re crushing on! But what happens when these secret admirers post anonymous comments on social media pages read by your entire college campus? Is this a cute gesture or a cowardly move?
Anonymous Crushes Facebook and Twitter accounts have popped up on tons of college campuses. The Hofstra Crushes Twitter account was created over Spring Break and had 425 submissions and well over 1,000 followers in a week and a half. These pages serve as a way for anyone to anonymously submit their crush to an email account for it to be posted on the site. Some see this as a cute, innocent way to find out someone is crushing on them while others find it as creepy and invasive. A few classy CL interns shared their thoughts on the trend.
“I think the new page is kind of a cute way to anonymously express your interest in someone. Also, if you are on the receiving end of a compliment, it makes you feel good!” – Rachel Crocetti, Hofstra University, sophomore
“I think crush pages are cute and funny. Most of the time I’m sure they’re just good friends saying things in good fun.” – Sarah Gooch, Penn State University, senior
Sarah was even a featured crush on the PSU Crushes Twitter. The tweet read: “Sarah Gooch, she’s a dreamy bombshell with tons of class. I’d give her the diamond diploma.”
“I found it quite funny, I’m not sure who wrote it,” she said.
“I think the crushes page is kind of creepy and honestly a little annoying. I defriended it so the status updates didn’t constantly come up on my newsfeed because it would say silly thing such as ______ is really hot and I just don’t need that on my Facebook.” – Alexa Lippman, Binghamton University, senior
“I think the crushes page is a little creepy, because some people have actually anonymously posted a picture of their crush. Not only do I think that’s invasive to people’s privacy, but I also think there’s some things that need to be kept off the Internet.” – Alexis Hallinin, Duquesne University, junior
But how far can anonymously professing your crush through social media really get you in a relationship? What happened to the days of guys asking you on a date in person? Rarely ever do people actually know who posted the crush about them so it seems to be counterproductive if you’re actually looking to make a connection with a person. Many times the comments are crude, but there are the occasional sweet ones that make you want to know who posted it about you.
Social media is becoming the new platform for relationships and these pages may be the first step. Instead of courting a crush with flowers and love notes, we are courting them with anonymous confessions. If your secret admirer then makes the effort to talk to you in a person, a relationship could form!
So is dating dead, or has it just changed? These co-eds weighed in on the dating is dead issue.
“I don’t think this contributes to the ‘dating is dead’ idea. In fact, I think dating is making a revival, or at least I hope so. The excitement of a first date is always so much fun. I wouldn’t doubt that the Crushes accounts could lead to some dates. The first step would be staying anonymous and then maybe someone could get the courage up to ask the person out in person!” – Rachel Crocetti
“I think this ‘dating is dead’ theory is very subjective. A lot of dating has migrated to online communications, and I think people start to misconstrue the ideal concept of dating. Our generation is a population of people who grew up with massive amounts of varied entertainment. I see these pages as just another way our generation is trying to ‘stay entertained.’” – Alexis Hallinin
What do you think? Are these pages creepy or cute? Have you ever used it or gotten a date because of an anonymous crush posting? Sound off in the comments!
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