Serious relationships are full of firsts. Whether you’ve been seeing your guy for a year or just a few months, the time will eventually come to bring him home for the holidays. Don’t let this potentially stressful experience turn into the nightmare we all saw in the hysterical romantic comedy “Meet the Parents.” Instead, be a sweet, classy lady and introduce your beau the right way with the following breakdown.
Prepare him: You don’t have to tell him all of your little brother’s secrets and every argument your ‘rents have ever had. But do let him know of any major issues, such as health problems, lifestyles and habits that are sure to affect his stay.
Prepare yourself: Breathe. Bringing your guy home is a big moment! Try not to stress over every little thing that could go wrong. Chances are the visit will not be perfect (as first time meetings never are), but it could still have a great outcome.
Prepare together: Bake a dish for your parents! It could be something fun, such as Christmas cookies, or you could teach him how to make your grandma’s famous caramel apple cake. Your parents will appreciate the thought and get a feel for the seriousness of your relationship.
The introduction: When you arrive home, take a moment to hug your parents and let them know how much you’ve missed them. Then, introduce them to the special gentleman in your life. (Hopefully your classy guy knows smiling, eye contact and a firm handshake are brownie points).
Handling conflict: Sometimes people just don’t get along. (For advice on this, read “Dealing with ‘Rude’ Relatives/Questions at Christmas!”). If you notice your boy and parents don’t agree on anything, step in by offering simple conversation or crack a joke. Family games such as Apples to Apples are sure to break tension. Laughing a little will lighten the mood and you’ll be on your way to recovery in no time!
Embrace the holidays: Holidays should be filled with happiness and love, especially when spending them with the people you care about most. Surprise your family and guy with a fabulous holiday event (read more: “CL’s Guide to a Family Holiday Event”). Bonding over shared memories is the best way for the ‘rents to get to know your guy and make this first shared holiday a wonderful experience.